just the person i was waiting for. so had i talked to them and they also recommended the medium compression and light/medium rebound. but yes i am aware of the whole issue of being too stiff. i just dont want to have a lot of body sway.
You can't count on the coils to completely control sway on an off road rig, as if it can't lean over, it can't compress the suspension to follow the terrain, etc. You want the coils to support the weight, and the shocks to damp motion.
If you make is stiff enough to corner flat with just coils, it will be like a buck board off road.
The best way to work all of this out is to take some weights with one side up/down on the rig, calculate the center of gravity...
Then look at your roll centers, and see where they are relative to each other/the COG.
Drop an imaginary plumb bob down from the COG to the ground, and tip the rig onto nose dive, stall and all the way off camber positions, and see when the plumb bob swings OUTSIDE of the progressively smaller rectangle foot print made by the 4 tires.
THAT angle is "too far", and you roll if you exceed it. It can be different for P and D sides, etc.
For example, my COG on the 2001 was pretty close to a spot ~ 1' above my right knee.
If the roll center of the suspension can handle that, you can lean away w/o worrying about it...even if it drives like a drunken master. (Higher RC means less lean in turns typically, but can make you slide laterally in hot corners/not weight the loaded tires as much, etc. If COG and RC are in the same plane for example, you don't lean at all in turns, and so forth.)
If its all too high, you do need to worry about it,and, typically try to first consider your weight distribution and the roll center.
The F/R centers and the axis that results will be different typically, but setting up that balance also involves personal driving style.
The COG is the best starting point typically...as your roll center factors will probably be the least adjustable parameter....you want to know it mostly to simply help understand the leverage acting on the sprung mass.
Sooo....the best way is typically, for your situation, is to use the shocks to damp the sway instead of the coils.